STOP, You Want Success? Read this first: 7 elements Needed For Your Success Support Network
I don’t care what age you are, we all have dreams.
Some of you long timers may have put them away on the shelf 100 years ago and some of you newbies are afraid to take them off the shelf but I’m here to tell you ,”There’s no such thing as too young or too old.” MY internet marketing Mentor/Guru is Trent Brownrigg who is 29 years old. I’m 58 years old and rebuilding my professional life. He’s teaching me and supporting me in regards to the Internet Marketing world. It’s the perfect blend of Offline meets Online.
My goal is to build my ecommerce apparel / success support forum website into one of the largest socially conscious, people oriented, profitable companies in the world . We look forward to getting our positive messages out to the people. We want to make a huge global difference and help heal the world.
How’s that for a goal? By the way you’re all invited to move forward with us to make YOUR dreams come true AND help us make a difference in the world.
I have started and built successful business for over 30 years. The elements needed for success below are tried and true. I lived them and I’m still living them. I Learned (and still learning) from my mistakes and what you read below is the result of REAL experiences. The experience of SUCCESS and The experience of SETBACKS.
It’s impossible to cover everything below in one post. I will help you start and you must continue to do the research neccessary to strengthen every element below. . I will eventually cover all seven individually in the future. You must see these seven elements as one unit dedicated to helping you achieve your success. If one is missing or weak you will have a tough time succeeding. You must look to strengthen all of them every single day.
I suggest you get 7 file folders, mark each one with an element and accumulate all your information. Highlight and mark pages so that you could review the information anytime you want to.
Think of all the information below as a Sitemap or a Roadmap . . . . . Any questions? Feel free to reach out to me.
1-Dreams
This is where it all starts. This is where you need to “see it” or “feel it” or you cannot and will not move forward. Feeling that you are destined for great things and not being able to see exactly what it is right now is a great start. Don’t worry if you can’t see it today.
Embrace this feeling and be aware of it all the time. Read everything you can and meet and talk to old friends and new people to see what they’re up to. Embrace and nurture this feeling and your conscious and subconscious mind will become aware of, and will help you see, opportunities as they present themselves. Actually seeing what you want gives you the chance to focus your research and networking.
Either way the dream must inspire intense desire to enable you to move forward. Think Big . . . .Really Big. Don’t be afraid. Toss the bigger dream around in your mind for a couple of days and have fun and play with it. Play without judging it and you will see how incredible you feel when that big dream eventually feels comfortable and obtainable.
2-Emotions
The ups and downs that you will experience in the pursuit of success will be substantial and it’s enough to bring the strongest person to their knees at times. You must learn about how to control your emotions. It’s not easy but the good news is that it can be done and it’s all in your control. If you can only remember one thing then remember that you have the power to maintain and control your emotions.
3- Belief
If you believe you can, you probably can. If you believe you won’t, you most assuredly won’t. Either way you’re going to be right. Belief is the ignition that will get that fire roaring. It will carry you through all the way to the finish line. You must believe in your dream but most important of all you must believe in YOU. Ask yourself “Why not me?” Make a list and then with a black magic marker cross off all the lame negative reasons. Rewrite the list with all the positive reasons and then title it ” THIS IS WHY I CAN BE SUCCESSFUL” . Stick it on a place where you’ll see it every day and then just move forward.
4-Desire
So you want to be an actor or a nurse or a millionaire? That’s nice. Well you may not get it. There is only one thing that is stronger that setbacks, failures, disasters and that’s Desire. Big Dreams plus Enormous Belief in yourself equals huge indestructible Desire. You have to need success, not merely want it. Needing it like you need food and water will put you miles ahead of the global competition.
5-Change
Change is coming! Change is Good! If you see change as your enemy it will smack you around plenty. You will defeat and short circuit yourself and your dream. You . . .and only YOU will be responsible for derailing your success journey. You cannot beat “change”. It’s indestructible.
Embrace change and you give yourself a daily pass to start all over every day. Change comes in waves, sometimes big and sometimes small. Change happens all the time. Sometimes it works against you . . .Deal with it . . . . . and sometimes it works for you. You need to have faith that in the end it will be ok and you will flourish and move forward. Your goal is to always move forward. Moving sideways and back is normal, and it will happen, but when a new day dawns you must be persistent and move forward. Keep changing your approach until you achieve your goal.
6-Support
This one is usually left out in the majority of personal development books and articles. The mastermind concept has been around many years and should be a part of your success support network but it should be only one part.
You need deeper mental and emotional support. The Lone Ranger stories are all fiction. If you take a closer look at any personal or professional success story you will see another person or persons who were an important part of the story.
You need people who feel you and care about you. A spouse, partner,friend, teacher,parent, counselor or lover will give you that deep emotional support you need to help you get over the finish line.
Don’t have that? That’s ok I never had it either. There are plenty of ways to get that support from reading. It’s been a huge part of my success.
The major point: Get that support; You are going to need it. It could be one person, one book, or many people and many books. Point is: Get your cheerleader(s) ready.
7- Never, never give up
I dont think this needs much of an explanation. How can you ever fail if you never, never give up? This is where the other elements kick in to support you. You also must be ready, able and willing to effect a new course of action that is needed to succeed. You must do what you can to stay standing. You do not Give Up, Give In or Go Home. Temporarily Retreat, regroup and rest is what you do if the situation is difficult. Tomorrow you start all over again!!!
“When you get into a tight place and everything goes against you, till it seems as though you could not hang on a minute longer, never give up then, for that is just the place and time that the tide will turn.” ~Harriet Beecher Stowe
I wish you a lot of Luck. I’m part of your Success Support Network if you need me. You can make it.
Best wishes now and forever,
Barry
The Formula for Success . . . 6 steps That Will Bring You What you Really Want
Why is success so elusive for most people? They make it harder than it really is , That’s why . . .
Success really is a simple process . . . . These are the 6 very powerful steps for building a powerful future.
Follow them and enjoy the success you have always dreamed of.
1- You decide what you really need. You won’t make it if you just want it. You must need it. You’re absolutely totally committed to this “need”. There is no turning back. You have done the dreaming and the research and now there is no doubt about the Vision. You’re going for it! You need it! You’re not going to let anyone or anything stop you.
2-You are willing to take extraordinary action. You don’t care how many hours in a day you have to work ,You don’t care what tasks you have to do, you don’t care how much you have to travel, you will do whatever you have to do to succeed. Anything!!!
3-You are constantly vigilant as to what is working and what is not. CONSTANTLY !!! You should quietly and calmly review your findings on a daily basis. You should keep a journal on everything you see, think, feel and even suspect. A pattern will emerge if you remain open. Expect failure and then fight like a madperson to make sure it doesn’t happen. I call this my preventative attitude. It keeps you sharp and prepared.
4-You stay Nimble and Flexible. You love your product the way it is and no matter what you’ll make people buy it. Right? Wrong! Ask questions . . .Questions will help bring the Big Bucks. Who, why, what, where, when and How. Ask…Ask…Ask. If people working with you are a wrong fit do them a favor, and yourself, and help them leave and find a job that’s right for them. Don’t fall in love with anything or anyone. It’s an attitude that is good for everyone.
5- Continue to change your approach, based on all the information you have accumulated, until you achieve your goals. If you have to change to a less glamorous course of action after hearing the reality of the situation so be it. Do Not fall in love with today . . Change is coming . . .You will always have to start “all over again” tomorrow. Get used to it.
6-NEVER, NEVER, NEVER, GIVE UP . . . . . it’s impossible, I repeat, it’s impossible to fail if you adamantly refuse to give up, give in or go home.
Follow these steps and you can’t fail.
As I said if you never give up, give in or go home there is no failure.
There is retreat though. You enable your organization to rest. You plan your next move, you review all the steps above and then launch your offensive.
Good Luck!
See you on the open road . . .
Best wishes
Barry
Change and Transition – 10 Steps to Surviving Change Elegantly
By Sarah Steele
If I say the word “CHANGE” how do you feel? Most people remain fearful, anxious and uncomfortable with change, despite it being a driving issue in our society. It appears that no matter how much experience we have it doesn’t get any easier.
Gaining a level of understanding that allows you to be productive, creative and flexible with your own life as well as helping others handle change is key to succeeding in today’s ever-changing world.
Follow these 10 steps to help you cope with the transitions in your life:
1. Recognise that things DO change
Nothing is forever. Neither the good, nor the bad. You will be much less frustrated if you accept the change and decide to manage it, rather than desperately try and cling onto the way things used to be.
2. Pinpoint the specific change you are going through
Because any change has a number of implications in different areas of our lives, we tend to generalise the change we are going through. Stay focussed on one aspect of the change by identifying what you are most afraid of losing as a result of this change and then understanding why that loss is uncomfortable. For example, a new computer system may mean you will no longer feel competent. Feeling incompetent is a very different issue than fighting new technology, and can be easily addressed with training.
3. Accept the loss factor
Admit to yourself that regardless of whether or not you experience this particular change as ‘good’ or ‘bad’, there will be a sense of loss. This is the ‘better the devil you know’ scenario that leads us to put up with a situation we know isn’t good for us. Clearly define the change and recognise the areas of your life that will not change as a result.
4. Seek valid information
You will doubt the facts and struggle to believe anything you hear, see or feel about the change. Write down what information you need to know and who can provide you with that data. Ask straight questions, remain open to views that may be different to your own and listen to what you are being told.
5. Take action
Now that you have information, kick-start some forward momentum by taking both physical and mental action. Focus on taking the first baby step by setting priorities, committing to someone else what you will achieve and by when, and exercise (even if it’s only a 15 minute walk each day).
6. Recognise the Danger Zone
There comes a point where we choose to move on with the change and discover the opportunities it brings, or to give in to the fear of the unknown and remain fearful, anxious and in denial. Recognise that this normal, and don’t allow yourself to succumb. Increasing your small, regular action steps will help you keep that forward momentum going.
7. Make a decision
All the information you gathered may seem overwhelming. To avoid analysis paralysis set yourself a deadline for making a decision and do whatever it takes – even if you resort to flipping a coin! The secret to this is to break big decisions down into small, bite-sized chunks and work on one at a time. This way, decisions are easily reversible.
8. Identify the benefits
All change has some benefits. A divorce can give us the opportunity to have control of the remote, a new job could teach us new skills and starting your own business can provide you with the chance to follow your passion. Understand what the benefits of the change are and recognise them for the great gifts they bring you.
9. Change? What Change?
I promise there will come a time when you stop looking at the ‘change’ as something different. You will have integrated its challenges and victories into your life and will now feel more stable and open to what the future may hold. Remember everything you have learned for the next exciting, exhilarating and, oh ok, scary change.
10. Identify a change partner
Change is a constant in today’s society that you will go through many times in many different situations. Finding a change partner who is committed to encouraging you and supporting you will make the whole experience less scary and probably speedier. This may be a coach who can remain dispassionate, hold the mirror up to your fears and hold onto your highest goals. Or it might be a colleague at work who can help you see both sides of a situation.
Visit Atlantic Coaching for your copy of The Locator to find out exactly where in the cycle of change you are. Sarah Steele MBA, founder of Atlantic Coaching works globally with high-achieving professionals who, although successful in their career, aren’t as successful as they’d like in other areas of their life. Specialising in helping clients get crystal clear about exactly how they want their life to look, something many struggle with, our clients learn how to say “no” graciously, freeing up precious time and space for the things they really want to say yes to. Ultimately, it is through more conscious choices and effective systems that our clients quickly enjoy greater control and experience more success without sacrificing professional achievements. Sarah is an empowering coach, speaker and trainer with more than a decade of global business experience. Combining deep capabilities in communication, change and emotional intelligence, Sarah brings a globally savvy touch to all her work.
It Changed My Life Forever . . .
I was having coffee today with a long time friend of mine. . . . Wait, sorry to digress but . . . If you’re over 50 years old you use the term “long time friend” and if you’re under 50 you use the term “old friend” . . . just thought I’d let you in on some inside information .
Anyway, back to my story. So,my long time friend gets to talking about something that happened to her when she was in her early 20′s and it was such a poignant memory for her that she looked at me for a moment and said ” It Changed my life forever”. I can’t say what it was out of respect for her privacy but I didn’t see it as powerful an event as she did and I certainly didn’t see it as a ” Change my life forever” moment.
Wow. . . “It Changed my life forever” !!! That’s heavy stuff.
Her statement got me thinking in terms of my own life. I never really stopped and thought about events that were powerful enough to “Change my life forever”. After taking some time to think about it I actually did come up with 6 major milestones that could be considered “It changed my life forever” moments but then again I also had plenty of small ones that did also.
I sat down and started to make a list of moments in my life that stood out and this eventually made me aware of many moments that I forgot about. It was an amazing session and it’s still going on as of this moment. What’s interesting is, some of the Changes moved me forward and some appeared to move me back and sideways but it always turned out ok.
I’ve been learning some very interesting things about myself and I also became aware that each change event had no clear beginning and no clear ending. They seem to overlap and blend.
Everything in our lives is affected by Change every single minute in every single day. . .
How we view the Change and its effect is the key to success in your professional and personal lives. Let change flow by without acknowledging it or tag it as an “It changed my life forever” moment. It’s really your choice.
I’m finding that this exercise has been very emotional for me……Try it.
Take any moment in time where you remember a Change that happened . Write it down and then do the following:
1-Track it . . . .Take it forward as far as you can. See how far one change moment affects future moments. See how they’re related and connected.
2-On this journey remember the people and what effect they had or still have on your life. Think about how you felt…..Feel the experience.
3- Do it with what you would tag “It Changed my life forever” moments and minor change moments as well. You’ll be very surprised about what you’ll find especially with those minor change moments.
Everyone views change differently. Your ” It changed my life forever” moment could be someones “I don’t remember that event at all” moment. After examining your change moments I do think that you’ll find that in the long run “Change is Good” and it’s not as bad as you thought and You’ll probably come away feeling very proud of yourself.
Good Luck
Best wishes
Barry
You Can Move Mountains
You Can Move Mountains
By Dr. Mario Barrett, Ph.D.
When I was as a child, I never thought that I would have the ability to lead a change effort, yet here I am imploring humanity to lead itself from the inside-out.
Back then, I didn’t believe that I had the power to shift people’s thinking about poverty, crime, violence, and most of all, how they viewed themselves. I never thought I had the skills, persona, or proper upbringing to lead others. Like much of humanity, I believed that a new leader would emerge and take charge.
Therefore, I waited for our generation’s Dr. King, John F. Kennedy, Nelson Mandela, and Ghandi. Well, I waited and waited, while the problems around the world (such as poverty, hunger, racism, and genocide) that called for leadership were not getting the attention they deserved. You see, the problem with me, like with most of us is that we do not see ourselves as leaders, relegating us to waiting for the “one” who we think is. The problem is that while we wait, often times, the world’s problems get worse.
So, who is the “one” you ask?
The “one” is that individual that we perceive to be a leader, who will step in and correct all of the world’s ills and save us.
The “one” is that individual that we believe is larger than life and can move mountains with his/her charisma, intelligence, oratory skill, or cunning.
The “one” is that individual that can draw large groups of followers to support him/her in causes of concern to all of us.
The “one” is that individual that gets us into action, when we can’t get into action on our own.
Crazy enough, it was not until recently that I realized that I am the “one,” I mean, we all are.
And while, we may not have all or any of the attributes that I just described, we all have a passion to take action on causes that we hold dear to our hearts. In my case, my passion for self-empowerment has led to my development of the attributes necessary for successfully leading others to addressing their causes.
We are all the “one,” because we cannot continue to wait for the next coming of King or Ghandi.
We are all the “one,” because the world’s ills will not go away on their own.
We are all the “one,” because if not us, then who?
The truth is that the responsibility to solve the world’s ills resides in all of us. We all have the ability to lead others to take action(s) on causes that we hold dear. We all are versions of King and Ghandi, as they were versions of us. Get it through your head, we all are leaders and have the the ability to transform the world into a place that works for all of us.
With all of this in mind, when will you start moving mountains and embrace yourself as the “one”?
Dr. Barrett has an earned PhD in applied management and decision sciences, with a specialization in leadership and organizational change. He also holds a MS in organizational leadership and a BS in organizational management. In addition to these degrees, Dr. Barrett has completed several executive certificates focusing on various areas of management and leadership development.
Dr. Barrett is proud of his academic accomplishments, as they are the product of his long and sometimes difficult journey out of poverty. Along his journey, Dr. Barrett served honorably in the U.S. Air Force, participating in several vital overseas operations in the Middle East and Europe. He has also taught organizational leadership courses at the graduate degree level at Mercy College. This desire to develop leadership whether it be in myself or others is what drives Dr. Barrett. Dr. Barrett currently lives in NYC, where he runs The Barrett Center for leadership Development,
