The One Ingredient That Enables You To Have 365 Chances Every Year To Make Your Dreams Come True
By Barry Sarner
What’s the Ingredient? It’s Positive Expectancy and we all have it in our power to make it an integral part of our life. What is positive expectancy?
Positive Expectancy is all about “New Tomorrows” and the beautiful notion of “Starting Fresh” and “Starting over every day, any day”.
The simple reality of it all is that the world wakes up and the world goes to sleep. What happens in between for the most part plays out based on what choices we make all day. The choices could be as simple as deciding to sit on a bus instead of standing.
I had an accident months ago and I played it over and over again in my mind. I remember thinking to myself that if I had left the store when I planned and not gone back for something it would have been someone else and not me in the accident.
The point is that you make decisions and choices all day long. Some work out in your favor and some don’t and I say, so what. Why not decide to have an attitude that you’re a good person and that you have the right to expect good things to happen to you and for you? It’s a simple choice. It’s also a numbers game.
The more you believe that you’re worthy of good or great personal events the better chance you have of it coming true. Even if it happens initially only 20% of the time that’s better than zero times and zero times it will be if your expectations are low or nonexistent.
The exciting reality here is that the more you use, strengthen and adjust your positive expectancy attitude the more your success percentage will go up. Expecting good things to happen every day for you is a choice that every human being should be making. I promise you there’s no law, secular or religious, that says that you cannot expect great things to happen to you.
Your past does not determine what your life will be or could be. A firm decision to choose positive expectancy will start you on a journey of success and happiness. Patience and persistence will be the vehicles that get you to the finish line. All you have to realize and then commit to is the fact that you have the right to expect great things and that you’ll have great things happen to you.
You have the chance to start your life over 365 days per year. Every year you have 365 chances to make your Dreams come true. Expect good things every day. Every night and every morning tell yourself that although the day may have challenging and stressful situations you still will have good things happen to you. Just say it out loud often and with feeling.
Will this be the day you go for it? Will you go for that dream that keeps you up at night? Will you go for the dream that makes your heart pump faster and your mind spin out of control?
Not today? That’s ok. Don’t ever give up.You have 364 more chances this year to make it happen.
I wish for you to have a lifetime of very powerful tomorrows.
POSITIVE MESSAGES
”The bond that links your true family is not one of blood, but of respect and joy in each other’s life. Rarely do members of one family grow up under the same roof.” RICHARD BACH, Illusions
“Here is the basic rule for winning success. Let’s mark it in the mind and remember it. The rule is: Success depends on the support of other people. The only hurdle between you and what you want to be is the support of other people.” ~ David Joseph Schwartz Quotes
“When you get into a tight place and everything goes against you, till it seems as though you could not hang one minute longer, never give up then, for that is just the place and time that the tide will turn. “~Harriet Beecher Stowe (1811 – 1896)
Once you choose Hope, Anything’s possible
“Once you choose Hope, Anything’s Possible”… Christopher Reeve
The Definition of Hope:
1. The feeling that what is wanted can be had or that events will turn out for the best.
2. A particular instance of this feeling: the hope of winning
I ask you “Why not you?” I ask you “Why shouldn’t you have everything you want in life?” I ask you “Who told you that you can’t have what you want”?
It seems that too many people believe that where they are in life today is where they will be forever.
I ask you Why think that? I ask you “Who made you believe that?”
I’m not saying it’s easy and that if you just change your attitude you’ll be on your way to your dreams. I am saying why not take a baby step towards your dream. Dip your toe in the water and go from there. That’s easy. Start with busting out of the chains that keep you down.
I want you to defend yourself against negative people and the negative talk. Defend your right to succeed. Why be bullied into low achievements by words that are not accurate or true? Words spoken by people who will never do anything with their lives. Little People!!!
Hope means busting out from the loser village that people close to you got you to buy into. Oh, the people that love you wouldn’t do that? Right? Yes Right!!! You did it to yourself and you allowed it to happen. Hey, I ask you “If you did do it why can’t you undo it???”
To Summarize: You want success in your life?
1-Use the questions above to bust out of all the mental restrictions you imposed on yourself. Start small. Just question yourself or have a positive human being work with you. Don’t beat yourself up. Take one question a week to begin your journey. One Question… It’s that simple.
2-Physically move forward towards you dream. You got 4 kids, 2 dogs, mortgage, helping your in-laws and no time. I ask you “Can’t you find 15 minutes every day that you could do research on making your dream come true?” If you can’t you might as well just resign yourself to your current reality.Just 15 minutes… It’s that simple.
3-Ladies and Gentlemen: You gotta have HOPE. Hope is dealing with your reality today AND at the same time know that you will be ok and that you will succeed. I ask you “Why Not?”
Good luck!
Regards,
Barry
Who’s On Your Side???
Who’s On Your Side?
There are a Gazillion books on how to think positive thoughts and how to be successful. There are a lot of men and women who are making fortunes “teaching” us how to be happy and how to think positive thoughts. There are too many people giving us the “inside” scoop on how they became rich and successful and, OH BOY! , how we could do it too. The problem with the majority of what is being written and spoken about leaves out the most critical key to a successful life’s journey… It’s the answer to the question, who’s on your side?
The truth, in my opinion, is that yes, there are some basic rules you need to follow to have a successful business career or build a wonderfully fantastic life but the one thing, and the main thing, you need to have is a success support group that is there for you. They should be a mixture of people who are Nurturing, smarter than you, more successful than you and they should all believe that dreams can come true if you all help each other.
Most of the books and sermons emphasize “YOU” and what you have to do to move onward and upward. What they don’t mention is the fact the most important success ingredient is whose got your back and “Who’s on your side”. You’re not the Lone Ranger and that mentality will help you get absolutely nowhere and eventually slam into that proverbial wall.
From my experience the people you know and who know you is more important than any experience or Knowledge you may have. What one is lacking in traits needed for success can be rented (accountants, life coach, lawyers, and employees) or found in a success support network. Your own personal success support community.
What you need to do is once you have some powerful goals and before you begin to do anything you must look around you and see who you have on your side and how they can help move you to the next level and complement your personality and abilities.
“WHO’S ON YOUR SIDE???”
This is the most important question you will ever have to ask in your whole life. It’s the question and it’s the answers that will put you on the road to success in anything you want to achieve. If you want to bring someone with you on your journey to success and you think they can help you… STOP – LOOK – THINK. Look into their eyes and think silently “Whose side are you on?” Concentrate. You will be amazed at the answers you’ll get.
“WHOSE SIDE ARE YOU ON???”
Use this question every day of your life. Ask your important People just for the hell of it. If they are truly with you they will “Get It” and be happy to answer you. Ask it out loud when you need to make heavy people decisions. Listen carefully and you’ll be able to build a very strong success support network.
If someone is offended by the question then they’re not for you and they’re “Not on your side”
Make this question and its answers a priority when building your success support community. It will make the difference between whether you succeed or fail. I’ve lived this. This question will protect you if you’re honest and accept the reality it exposes.
I sincerely wish you the best of luck. Keep on Moving forward.
Regards,
Barry
How To Make The World A Better Place
So many people fear change. The economy slips and they fear the worst. They lose their job and they fear that they will never get another one. Looking at it from another perspective, without change, we can never move forward. Change is Good!
What happens when the economy slows down?
Companies that have survived for years even though the products and services they offer are inferior to others are the first to go. Those who survive do so because they are forced to strive to deliver greater value to their customers. When the tough times pass, as they did in the Great Depression, the country comes out of a tough economic period stronger than ever before because it was forced to embrace change.
If you want to know how to change the world for the better, don’t look to the government for help. Look within. Sure, it’s important to take a stand and vote for the candidates you think are most dedicated to bringing about positive change, but it’s even more important to look within, to the greatest power for change in the known universe: yourself.
That probably sounds like an absurd statement – that you are the greatest power in the universe. It’s certainly not meant to make you feel egotistical. Only a narcissist thinks he’s the most powerful person in the world. But in a very real sense, you are the greatest power in the world, because only you can change yourself.
There may be a higher power standing right behind you, but until you acknowledge your personal power to change yourself, you will not be able to tap into the greater power that can help you change the world for the better.
Take this for example: Let’s say you’ve been working the same job for years. It pays the bills and you enjoy the respect of your colleagues, but it doesn’t satisfy something deep down inside. It feels safe, though, so you stick with it because you fear change. Then one day out of the blue, you lose your job. Fear is the first emotion you feel. It’s natural, but you needn’t let it be your master.
When Franklin D. Roosevelt became President of the United States in 1933, it was the height of the Great Depression. Fear was everywhere. It was Roosevelt who said the immortal words, “The only thing we have to fear is fear itself” during his inaugural address. Many people believe that those stirring words alone helped lift America out of the Depression.
Remember those words when change comes unexpectedly. Don’t let fear paralyze you into going backwards.
Remember that Change is good and use change as a springboard to launch you forward. Do so and you will find all the power you need to change yourself and the world. That’s how to change the world for the better: embrace change, believe in yourself and let’s try to heal the world.
